How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others on Social Media
Other people’s success is not your downfall.
Your brain just drama queen.
One of the biggest buka-mata unlocks I’ve learned recently is this:
Being genuinely happy when other people win.
Not the polite “wah so nice for you” face.
I mean the real, full-hearted,
“I’m genuinely thankful for your success” energy.
And honestly, learning how to stop comparing yourself to others on social media is half the battle.
Because let’s be real — social media loves triggering your green-eyed envy monster.
You see someone post a big achievement and suddenly your brain whispers:
“Why not me?” “Saya tak dapat?”
Padahal…
>You didn’t want it.
>You don’t need it.
>You didn’t apply.
Brain, please relax lah.
This is just the caveman part of us.
Last time: comparison = survival.
Now: Comparison = Jealousy + Unnecessary Emotional Damage 😂
🧠 Why It Happens (Your Brain Not Wrong… Just Outdated)
Our brains are wired for comparison because, back in the tribe days, it helped us survive.
Now?
It just makes us overthink other people’s LinkedIn posts.
You see someone win, and your brain goes into “danger mode,” as if their success means you’re about to be left behind by the village.
🧪 The Mini Science
Your brain has these things called mirror neurons — little “follow-along” circuits that fire when you see someone else succeed.
Sometimes when you watch another person win, you feel that spark like:
“Eh… maybe I can do this too.”
That’s the part we want to activate —
not the jealous green-eye monster that creates drama for no reason.
Not threat.
Not competition.
Training.
Their success is literally your brain doing a rehearsal run for your own.
💡 The Reframe That Changes Everything
Other people winning = proof that life Got Budget for good things.
Friends getting promoted, launching businesses, winning awards, going on holiday then quietly flexing their VIP tickets?
I’m genuinely proud of them.
It’s the universe showing us that good things are available.
Not just for some people.
For all of us.
And the moment you start clapping for other people’s wins — your whole vibe upgrades.
No more kedekut scarcity mode.
You unlock abundance mode like you just levelled up in life.
This is the real skill behind learning how to stop comparing yourself to others on social media:
Shift from insecurity → inspiration.
An Inspiration for All of Us
Whenever you see someone winning, try this:
Smile.
Say, “Yessss, love this for you.”
And quietly add,
“And my turn is coming lah.”
Because there’s enough success.
>Enough luck.
>Enough timing.
>Enough life for everyone.
